Several years ago I lost a good friend of mine over this argument. My friend was a frequent visitor to MPA's and one day we got into a discussion. At the time I claimed that going to a Spa for any type of sex was cheating (my friend was married) and I used the argument that "how would you feel if your wife went for a massage and got fingered to orgasm". He argued that it was different and women wouldn't do that. I'm not passing judgement in any way whatsoever but how would you feel if your wife regularly went to a spa and got eaten, fucked or fingered till orgasm. Would she be cheating on you?