in love with a bargirl... big question here

[phouzhan]

So let me get this straight - you kept her around for a couple of weeks and didn't give her any money so she only had 1300baht for the 'lady drinks' - then out of the kindness of your (very cold) heart you give her 3000baht ........ what a sort of a complete d*ckhead and 'cheap charlie' are you. For christ sake let her go back to the bar and earn a decent living cos you obviously cant afford her my boy.

 

[Betsy]

Check my post 48. Slavery is prohibited.

 

[love your creator]

te:
You make me feel guilty having my beautiful black fender acoustic hanging on the wall above my PC. She hardly ever gets to feel my fingers these days.

 

[Vishal]

Well if he is not paying then she will definitely be turning tricks behind his back. She won't be doing this to deliberately hurt him, and maybe she really does like the guy but in the end his reluctance to help her out financially will force her to do this.

Then when he finds out there will be recriminations all around. He will think badly of her and probably dump her as a result, and she could easily also be heartbroken. But pray tell me what exactly has she done wrong and where does the blame for a broken relationship lie?

JJ.

 

[Barcode]

***before reading, i know that i'm not the first guy who say he is in love with a bargirl and lot of people told me: a bar girl one day, a bar girl forever***

Hi, i'm 24 years old from Canada (french so sorry for my english), i consider myself a good looking guy. 8 days ago, i went to a bar on a popular soi in patong. I hate to pay for sex, but this night i was verry drunk so i decided to look at some girls in the bar. I just sit on a table and i saw one pretty lady. I don't know how this bargirl thing works, so i did nothing and dont even go see her maybe cause i was shy and alone.

So after 10 minutes sitting alone and drinking, she come to see me... the only girl i was interessted. We played bar games, talked, drink, and at 2am, we go in the club (i didint pay for barfine). We had a lot of fun and after she came to my room and we had sex. The next day, she stayed with me till 8pm, she kissed me, gave me her phone number/take mine, and she went away. I'm like...emmmmmmm she didin't ask money???

I called her the same day and she came to my room every night since then, and leave everyday at 8pm, and we spend a lot of time together. By the way she is 19 years old.

The only thing i payed her is food, nothing else.

So now, i am falling a little bit in love with her. We always kiss, have fun, laughing and it reminds me of the first day with my exs girlfriends. And when the fourth morning i woke up and she was playing softly with my hairs and looking at me while i was sleeping, i thought that maybe her too had something for me.

I'm a little bit jaleous because of her work. So i ask her questions, and obviously i know that maybe the answers are not true, but i want to know what you think:

Since when you are a bargirl?
- Since 3 weeks. I had 4 costumers thats it.

How much guys you had sex with in your life?
- 6 (4 costumers, 1 thai, and me)

Will you go with costumer again? If you say no, i think you lie...
- No! I sleep with you everynight and i dont even ask you for money. I call you every 1 hour, how you want me to lie.The only thing i do in the bar is getting payed drinks by guys so i make 50bahts/drink and when the guy ask for sex, i say sorry i'm in my periods.

Why you do this, for money?
- No, i dont like thai guys so i will tell you the true. I came here, yes for the money, but the main reason was to find a good farang guy like you.

Do you want to come with me? You quit your ****ing bargirl job, i take a house in phuket town and you find a normal job there...
- Ok but before i have to go back to Korat 5 days (where she lives) to finish school (and she ask me if i want to come with her there)


So now, i'm maybe planing going with her where she lives for 5 days and after taking a house in phuket town with her.

My friend lives in phuket town and he is laughing verry much. He say that i get rip off by this girl. He say that they do this with EVERY GUY!

Anyway, what do you think?

 

[lex]

Everyone is like how can she possibly live if he is not giving her the big money that a very attractive BG can make? Well, some people work for a living in a normal line of work, and, miraculously, somehow they and their families survive. Yes, it's true. I am not making this up. It actually is what happens with most of the population in LOS!

He gave her 3000. she made 1300 = 4300 Baht. That is not a bad income for 2 weeks for most people in LOS. If she would rather make the big BG money, which she apparently was making(23 LTs in 30 days, according to her account of the month before they met) then she can, if that is her choice, But if she chooses not to, so she can be with him, then she has a right to make that choice, also.

Years ago, I went with a girl from MTB, who had been there about a week. I was her first LT. She was a very nice girl. I only went with her one night, and I don't remember whether she went with any others, but after about two weeks in the bar, she went back to Isaan. She was reasonably attractive, above average, and I think she could have done well. But she just didn't like going with strange men for money. Just not cut out for the BG world.

You guys make too many assumptions about what the girl is thinking. She may just be thinking I would rather live a normal life with a guy I like, and maybe could fall in love with, than work in the bar, drinking, and going with 10 or more different guys every month. Not all girls are cut out for the BG life. It is her choice. Let her make it.

I don't understand why everyone thinks that working in the bar is so much better than working an average job for a lot less money. If that were true, then there would be a lot more BGs. As it is, a lot of the girls are on salary now in the bars. It used to be a commissions only job, but they have to pay them now to get enough girls to fill the bars. If the life of a BG was so desirable and so lucrative, then they wouldn't have had to start paying them salaries to get enough girls.

Obviously, most TGs do not want to be BGs. Has it ever occurred to you that this girl maybe doesn't really want to be a BG? It can be a very stressful job, especially for a girl, who really doesn't want to be a wh0re, or is not cut out for that line of work. What is so terrible about taking an opportunity to live a somewhat normal life?

 

[baseball freak]

I not like Thai man.....I not like bar.....I only work bar short time.....I not go with customer (much)......I want only you

Standard bar girl banter to a gullible young customer....she has read him like a book and is reeling him in like a fish....he does not like to pay for sex (because he is a handsome young man) and so she does not ask for money....she speaks English well enough to be able to communicate with a French-Canadian but is supposed to have been in Patong for less than a month....she needs to go back to Korat for five days to finish school? :aww: Anyone else believe that? anyone? :
His friend who lives in Phuket has warned him but "mai non, mai non, mai non" HIS girl is different.
What do I think??...Il est irrécupérable (He's a lost cause.) .:tuxout:

 

[Alesana. ?]

If it us true that she had only been in the bar a short time , she is unlikely to be heavily sponsored. Why was she working in the bar in the first place ? because she needed money ....
The OP was advised early in the thread that is was the done thing to give the girl some money, and yet he still continued to post, In my opinion bragging that he hadn't given her any.
I agree that you can get a freebie. One girl said to me once that the only thing i had to pay was the price of a condom ( i didn't go with her ) . However, it is pushing it to believe that any bar girl, who is obviously working in the bar for financial reasons, would go with anybody knowing it was without payment for 13 nights.

 

[naenae0011]

OMG.. it must be around midnight where you are now... why aren't you out partying? Or are you waiting to meet her somewhere? Anyway... I hope you continue to share your trials and tribulations with us... most of us would love to be in our 20's again... in our 20's and knowing what we know now... :bad:

 

[JASPER]

OMG ....you have really got to pull your head in buddy...... you are a real knob jockey .......

 

[freebienutter]

Thanks everybody, its verry appreciated for a newbie like me who know nothing about bargirl.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Excellent post Butterflyblonde (even if your avatar sent me into an epileptic trance) you are truely wise and fair. Maybe we are being a little harsh on the young fcuker.

The comical part is the way he lost the girl with all the ultimatums and paranoia. To be upset that she had slept with 10 guys? OMG, you really need a reality check. You may well have been on a good thing but you fcuked it all up. Now she will be telling all her friends what a Cheap Charlie you were, dont expect anymore freebees in Patong.

 

[TWIGGY2]

WTF's this Oh My Geek ?

Yes...l will admit, my first trip to Patong, my first day l was sat on the beach and bought these Rose Tinted Glasses from a Beach Vendor.....that night l met a BG, and she took time out of her busy duties (sitting on her ar5e holding a plastic drinx menu/card) to make me feel welcome.

"where u from?" she enquired so delightfully...."how long are u staying in Phuket?" she asked me as if to make me feel so special..."what Hotel you staying at?"...my god, so many questions, this chick is obviously into me.

Anyway we are living happily ever after here in Australia......just me and her.....and her "brother"....they are very close, so l thought it was the right thing to do, to make a Visa for him as well......oh, and her 2 kids.....they obviously miss a father figure as the poor brother gets called "Papa"....but he doesn't mind.

So my advice would to follow your heart.....she sounds wonderful....different to the rest....she's a Keeper 4 sure :wink2:

Just one more thing.....you say your 24...and good looking....any pix ?...for a mate mind !


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[Vodka Drunkenski]

hi OMG, welcome to the board :intello:



think your friend's right here... :tuxout:

btw, try to contact BM MAV and get one of his RTG'S :^^:

 

[cannot_remember_chit]

maybe i have mis-read it but i thought i read where he laid down what he was willing to do for her
then he gave her the 3k while she was working getting drink money
so she made 4300 baht in 2 weeks, another 4300 for the next 2 weeks is not a bad intake for a 18yr old thai girl who gets to hang out with her friends everynight

 

[tash]

So is this now the " Guitars I Have Known" thread? 55555555555555

 

[Mr Chill]

ok Thanks thanks for all your answers. Now i paranoi a lot with all those answers and maybe its a good thing.

Yesterday i told her: Look, i'm not stupid, tell me how much guys you slept with. After 5 minutes she told me: Ok i tell you the true. 10 guys in one month. 1 seven days, 1 four days, 1 four days, 1 two days and the rest 1 night each.

OMG now i feel so ripped off. I feel like all the other 10 guys. I just don't trust her anymore. All the night she tryed to cuddle to me, but i find it so nasty that i didint want to.

Anyway, now i don't know what to do... Thanks everybody for your opinions

 

[Pyewacket]

Is she really really hot? Is she really really good in the sack? Is she fun to be with? If all answers are yes then bang her silly, pay her and go back to Canada.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Hehe

I did a lot of partys in koh phangan so i take it easy for 2-3 weeks. When she go working, i start working too till she finish.

And for you.. what are you doing? No party? 42 years old doesn't = no party!!! :wink2:

 

[Pinkboots]

Did you not see this quote from him?>>>

Thanks everybody, its verry appreciated for a newbie like me who know nothing about bargirl.

...and that he only gave her the 3000 baht AFTER she cried that she'd only made 1300baht in 12 days from ladydrinks. Because she's committed herself to OMG obviously she feels she can't go with other customers so in that 12 days the poor girl probably missed out on making 4 or 5000baht being faithful to him.