Chat Can you trust spa girls...

[Ambler]

Visiting these ladies, to me many times seems to be a form of accelerated dating. The business part of it is a guard rail where you can get really close to them. The time and money spent tends to be so economically favourable as opposed to going through the conventional process with civvies.
For me the biggest inhibitor of things progressing, aside from the fact we met at a spa, is the communication barrier. The physical and emotional connection is like a 2 legged stool.

You are bang on regarding the accelerated aspect at play here. One lady I lunched with a few times, just as chatty as me and loved a real conversation, said that it was weird that we had spent a good amount of time naked and sweaty before becoming actual friends and confidantes.

 

[OG_funguy]

So what are those pros and cons
What does crossing the line entail?
I'm sure exchanging numbers is the first step, messaging into grabbing a bite outside the spa.
But what is there to gain? At what cost/risk.
Should I be content with a hour long visit and keep that fantasy outta reach?
That special feeling and connection, the temptation to take things further keeps things feeling electric without getting burned

If I'm being honest, pros are mostly the physical aspect of things. But some are very fun to hang out with as well. A lot of my buddies don't have that much time anymore to hang out (family obligations), plus many are not Asian. So it's fun to go out with a spa girl for some good Asian food, watch an Asian movie, Karaoke, etc...cons are it can get quite time consuming and if you get attached to them, then obviously with the nature of their work, you will get jealous from time to time.

I was just using your words about "crossing the line". I assumed you meant seeing them outside the spa is considered crossing the line...

Yes, exchanging contact info is the first step, then (usually at the spa) you joke around about going out sometime and you gage their reaction to see if they're receptive to it (most are lol). I've actually had a bunch of girls ask me out first...I'm no Brad Pitt so a lot of times, I think they are just seeking companionship with someone they have things in common with.

There's a lot to gain . With some girls I'm close to, they have husbands or BFs already. These are the ideal ones because it's basically a NSA relationship and the risk of getting too close to them is reduced (unlike the single girl that I'm so attracted to). Conversely, they know where things stand with me too and are less likely to get too emotionally attached.

Whether you want to keep things in the room or not is your decision...I don't see any harm in 'extending' the fantasy outside the room but you need to be very careful not to get too attached. If you're the jealous type, I strongly recommend you keep things in the room. And just be aware that most of the time, the relationship will not have a story book ending (funny enough, I find that the relationships that last the longest are the ones where they already have a significant other). In one of the relationships where I was in deep with a girl that was single, I knew I ultimately could not give her what she needed. When it ended, it took me months to get over that (we're still friends to this day)...I know this will eventually happen with this other girl too but I'm no where near as close to her as I was with the other girl...it will still sting a lot regardless.

Keep us up-to-date with your potential endeavors , it's always fun and entertaining to read about other guy's adventures 'outside the spa'. I find most reviews are not that entertaining, we should all know what's going on in the room by now.

When I was completely anonymous, I used to post a lot more about my adventures, like the first girl I got close to, first time at a hotel, first time having them over at my place, etc...you can probably still find these threads if you search on them. But obviously I never revealed who these girls were (and I wouldn't say in PMs either).

These days, too many girls know who I am on here so I can't post as freely as I used to...I may even have to delete this thread at some point (like I have with other threads of mine).

 

[Ambler]

I remember reading your earliest posts, quite sincere, thoughtful and entertaining. I also remember you saying you had ladies over to your house, and my immediate thought was you mean half your house, and half your house sooner than later if things got sticky. Stay you, authentically you OG, you are one of the good ones here. Maybe a little too good.

Happy New years full of good health and success. Also remember, everything in moderation... including moderation.

 

[Silence4long]

If I'm being honest, pros are mostly the physical aspect of things. But some are very fun to hang out with as well. A lot of my buddies don't have that much time anymore to hang out (family obligations), plus many are not Asian. So it's fun to go out with a spa girl for some good Asian food, watch an Asian movie, Karaoke, etc...cons are it can get quite time consuming and if you get attached to them, then obviously with the nature of their work, you will get jealous from time to time.

I was just using your words about "crossing the line". I assumed you meant seeing them outside the spa is considered crossing the line...

Yes, exchanging contact info is the first step, then (usually at the spa) you joke around about going out sometime and you gage their reaction to see if they're receptive to it (most are lol). I've actually had a bunch of girls ask me out first...I'm no Brad Pitt so a lot of times, I think they are just seeking companionship with someone they have things in common with.

There's a lot to gain . With some girls I'm close to, they have husbands or BFs already. These are the ideal ones because it's basically a NSA relationship and the risk of getting too close to them is reduced (unlike the single girl that I'm so attracted to). Conversely, they know where things stand with me too and are less likely to get too emotionally attached.

Whether you want to keep things in the room or not is your decision...I don't see any harm in 'extending' the fantasy outside the room but you need to be very careful not to get too attached. If you're the jealous type, I strongly recommend you keep things in the room. And just be aware that most of the time, the relationship will not have a story book ending (funny enough, I find that the relationships that last the longest are the ones where they already have a significant other). In one of the relationships where I was in deep with a girl that was single, I knew I ultimately could not give her what she needed. When it ended, it took me months to get over that (we're still friends to this day)...I know this will eventually happen with this other girl too but I'm no where near as close to her as I was with the other girl...it will still sting a lot regardless.

Keep us up-to-date with your potential endeavors , it's always fun and entertaining to read about other guy's adventures 'outside the spa'. I find most reviews are not that entertaining, we should all know what's going on in the room by now.

When I was completely anonymous, I used to post a lot more about my adventures, like the first girl I got close to, first time at a hotel, first time having them over at my place, etc...you can probably still find these threads if you search on them. But obviously I never revealed who these girls were (and I wouldn't say in PMs either).

These days, too many girls know who I am on here so I can't post as freely as I used to...I may even have to delete this thread at some point (like I have with other threads of mine).

Yeah that's what I was looking for! A golden response. Between you and Ambler I got some solid advice tonight from some vets!
Also I gotta try dig up some of these stories as you said most reviews aren't worth the squeeze

 

[Lalallala]

Ok. Belly full of hotpot. Things got hot and heavy today seeing an MPA. I really wanted to do the deed and so did she but semi rules being semi rules.. none of that. . Long story short, now I have her number but she doesn’t really speak English and I am still learning Mandarin. We used google translate during the session. I want to text her but I don’t know if what Google spits out will sound stupid or not

What’s the best way to make light conversation in Chinese? Ahhhhh…

 

[Blue58]

So what are those pros and cons
What does crossing the line entail?
I'm sure exchanging numbers is the first step, messaging into grabbing a bite outside the spa.
But what is there to gain? At what cost/risk.
Should I be content with a hour long visit and keep that fantasy outta reach?
That special feeling and connection, the temptation to take things further keeps things feeling electric without getting burned

Go ahead and cross the line, sport; it will probably end badly, but you'll get over it. I say this from experience: it's a life lesson I seem unable to learn. And as our own Alfred Lord Ambler reminded above: "Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

 

[OG_funguy]

Happy new years everyone!

Anyone have new year resolutions as it relates to hobbying?

For me, I will try to take 2 days off from hobbying each week (but it will be tough)

 

[Lalallala]

Happy new years everyone!

Anyone have new year resolutions as it relates to hobbying?

For me, I will try to take 2 days off from hobbying each week (but it will be tough)

Hahaha trying to cut down on spending. So I guess fewer trips or cut tips. What to do..

 

[Lalallala]

Happy new years everyone!

Anyone have new year resolutions as it relates to hobbying?

For me, I will try to take 2 days off from hobbying each week (but it will be tough)

oh yeah, i forgot about weight lifting goal - be able to hoist amy@aria (or similar girl if she's not up for it) up and perform daty on her while standing up. and her against a wall, obviously I have no idea how easy that would be or if the fear of being dropped would make it not enjoyable for her.

 

[Silence4long]

My spa girl decided she couldn't trust me....Our connection was real, and we were both feeling it, but now it’s gone. Today, I thought about taking a step forward. Midway through, things shifted—she became very inquisitive and doubtful. What really hurt was when I asked her what had changed. She just said, You don’t owe me anything. You don’t need to tell me more about yourself, you’re just a client

When I asked her if we could get it back (the magic), she simply said, We’ve caught feelings, and there’s no going back.

The coldness burns and to be treated as any other client without that spark.... It sucks.

 

[Lalallala]

My spa girl decided she couldn't trust me....Our connection was real, and we were both feeling it, but now it’s gone. Today, I thought about taking a step forward. Midway through, things shifted—she became very inquisitive and doubtful. What really hurt was when I asked her what had changed. She just said, You don’t owe me anything. You don’t need to tell me more about yourself, you’re just a client

When I asked her if we could get it back (the magic), she simply said, We’ve caught feelings, and there’s no going back.

The coldness burns and to be treated as any other client without that spark.... It sucks.

Ouch dude. That sucks

 

[Aznstunna]

My spa girl decided she couldn't trust me....Our connection was real, and we were both feeling it, but now it’s gone. Today, I thought about taking a step forward. Midway through, things shifted—she became very inquisitive and doubtful. What really hurt was when I asked her what had changed. She just said, You don’t owe me anything. You don’t need to tell me more about yourself, you’re just a client

When I asked her if we could get it back (the magic), she simply said, We’ve caught feelings, and there’s no going back.

The coldness burns and to be treated as any other client without that spark.... It sucks.

I'm curious. Why would she think she couldn't trust you anymore?

 

[startbeforeIfinish]

My spa girl decided she couldn't trust me....Our connection was real, and we were both feeling it, but now it’s gone. Today, I thought about taking a step forward. Midway through, things shifted—she became very inquisitive and doubtful. What really hurt was when I asked her what had changed. She just said, You don’t owe me anything. You don’t need to tell me more about yourself, you’re just a client

When I asked her if we could get it back (the magic), she simply said, We’ve caught feelings, and there’s no going back.

The coldness burns and to be treated as any other client without that spark.... It sucks.

In this job the other clients are a distraction for a relationship. Maybe she found a better version of you. Happens to me all the time.

 

[Silence4long]

I'm curious. Why would she think she couldn't trust you anymore?

Through our conversations I was very guarded on sharing personal info. She felt she gave everything and I was not reciprocating that emotionally. The feelings we had we're real but I was content giving little up but gaining everything I wanted out of our connection. We hit the point of no return quicker than I would have liked.
Now is the dilemma do I walk away or do I try rekindle by being more open and honest in what I'm looking for

 

[OG_funguy]

Through our conversations I was very guarded on sharing personal info. She felt she gave everything and I was not reciprocating that emotionally. The feelings we had we're real but I was content giving little up but gaining everything I wanted out of our connection. We hit the point of no return quicker than I would have liked.
Now is the dilemma do I walk away or do I try rekindle by being more open and honest in what I'm looking for

Rekindle the relationship!

 

[Silence4long]

Rekindle the relationship!

I will definitely try but the way she ended things was cold af

 

[Lalallala]

I will definitely try but the way she ended things was cold af

Man.. at the minimum it’s a good learning experience for the future - gotta give and take. Anything that’s too one sided is doomed to failure.

 

[Silence4long]

Man.. at the minimum it’s a good learning experience for the future - gotta give and take. Anything that’s too one sided is doomed to failure.

Yeah that's a good prospective in terms of a learning experience

 

[LoveSpaGirls]

Yeah that's a good prospective in terms of a learning experience

Never let em' see you sweat! The moment you show any of these sex workers you are becoming emotionally attached they will break your fucking heart. Treat them as they are what they are and they will always be happy to see you walking through the door. Love is for civilians - not sex workers - have fun but remain ALOOF...

 

[barefeet]

Happy new years everyone!

Anyone have new year resolutions as it relates to hobbying?

For me, I will try to take 2 days off from hobbying each week (but it will be tough)

I will try to hobby only one day a week from 2-3 days before. It will also be tough.